Desley at Musings of a Frequent Flying Scientist runs the challenge Contemplation.
This week’s prompt is:
What would you attempt if you knew you couldn’t fail?
I can take this question in many directions.
The first option is this:
I can think of what I never attempted for lack of talent. And why not?
I have once had music lessons when I was at secondary school. I tried to play guitar and flute. And wanted next to learn to play saxophone. I found it difficult, mainly because of my lack of skills. I stopped it not because I thought I had failed, but because I realized that I lacked the minimal skills and abilities required.
Only interest wasn’t enough. I wasn’t frustrated with this outcome, as at least I had tried it. I still love music and appreciate it, and above all respect those who can master it.
Later on in my professional life I learned that I’d better invest in excelling in what I’m good at than spending time and effort to become mediocre in what I am not at all. Of course, provided I know what I am good at.
So, if I could, I would play saxophone.
The second option is of a different nature:
When you think of the physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived harmful event, attack, or threat to survival, you will meet the so-called fight-or-flight response, triggered by the autonomic (and unconscious) nervous system. I am the type whose instinct is to go for the fight and not for freeze or flight.
However, not all stress is the same as when defending ourselves from a lion in the jungle. So it is more ‘civilized’ to use our cortex and not our autonomic nervous system, as a decision maker. Better said than done though, as we don’t regulate our unconscious actions, unless we start to understand them. But even when we do, sometimes we still go for the fight, and oops…it’s too late when we realize that we have already gone through fear and defensive responses.
Learning to control ourselves is not an easy task. So we learn to live with it, right?
Yesterday I said something to a friend and realized that I was saying it to myself as well.I was feeling miserable for having said something in a way that hurt someone I deeply love and respect, despite the fact that I was hurt too for what I had heard first.
I said this to my friend: “You know, A, we all have our weaknesses. We all fear something.
How to control ourselves? I think we need to hold hands with our fear and relax. Let it stay until we see that it will always be there. But we are the ones to look at it, and say that it’s ok to be there, but regardless of it we keep moving, living and being able to walk alongside the dead. And even be happy again.”
So, if I could, I wouldn’t ever change who I am, but I would walk along the dead, the fear…, and wouldn’t ever hurt those I love.
I would never say anything that could hurt them. I would have a button to turn on and off and control what I say when arguing my point.
Meanwhile….I keep making mistakes, and learning some lessons.
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Since July 17th, 2015, I have been using the Kikki.K A Sentence a Day Journal. This is a beautiful mindfulness journal which provides one prompt per day, but has space on that page for three years worth of responses. I love the idea of having this with me for three years and each year discovering my response from the previous year and seeing whether I’ve grown, moved forward, stayed strong in my convictions, taken a step back or changed my ideas.
Each week, I’ll choose one of the prompts from that week and share both it and my response with you. I invite you to join me and share your response to the prompt as well, linking back to this post so that I can read your response. Use the tag Contemplation and name your post “Contemplation – Week xx”, corresponding to which week it is. “
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