Desley at Musings of a Frequent Flying Scientist just started the challenge Contemplation.
This week’s prompt is:
What is something important that your parents taught you?
There is so much that my parents taught me! Of course they taught me the basic values and morals to guide my behaviors in society, and act with honesty, trust, ethics, integrity, respect, and fairness.
There are lessons though, which remain ingrained in my mind, which I learned from their behavior.
First of all, I was happy that they ‘walked their talk’, as to the values they passed on to their kids. I learned a lot from what I heard about their reputation, from members of our larger family circle, as well as at school, church, and from parents of my friends.
Secondly, I was proud to learn that my parents were admired and praised by all for being hardworking people with admirable work ethics, as well as for their impeccable character and attitudes, always permeated by collectivism, social responsibility, generosity and compassion.
There is also another recipient of valuable lessons, though. The countless arguments I had, mainly with my father when I was a (rebellious) teenager. Invariably, years later, I understood what he was trying to teach me and admitted that he was right.
Saying ‘No’ to me, ever so often in a somewhat authoritarian manner, taught me to never give up or bend to those with power or above me, but be authentic and fight for my ideas and ideals, and be determined to realize them.
So, when having to answer to Desley’s question, besides all that I mentioned above, the most important lesson I learned from my parents, was the value of education. They always asked me to study and take my education seriously, as this was the best way to prepare for life and become someone. What did they mean with that?
- If I wanted to defend an opinion, a dream, or a plan, be heard and taken seriously, I’d better prepare with facts and objectivity to defend my thinking. I needed to have not only knowledge but also a respectful and fair attitude towards others.
- If I wanted independence of thinking and actions, I also needed financial independence. So, I shouldn’t expect anything from life without making a serious effort, and without working hard.
- If I wanted to live in a society where I am valued, respected and trusted, I’d better go beyond my own interests, and listen to, share, involve others and treat them as I would treat myself.
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Since July 17th, 2015, I have been using the Kikki.K A Sentence a Day Journal. This is a beautiful mindfulness journal which provides one prompt per day, but has space on that page for three years worth of responses. I love the idea of having this with me for three years and each year discovering my response from the previous year and seeing whether I’ve grown, moved forward, stayed strong in my convictions, taken a step back or changed my ideas.
Each week, I’ll choose one of the prompts from that week and share both it and my response with you. I invite you to join me and share your response to the prompt as well, linking back to this post so that I can read your response. Use the tag Contemplation and name your post “Contemplation – Week xx”, corresponding to which week it is. “