And of course you’re laughing at me, the quote, or both , right? I’m feeling funny today….
Now seriously…there is another quote inside the post for today.
I got a short video via whatsapp that made me laugh a lot. In short: A man is at home reading a book and stops when the doorbell stars ringing insistently.
At the door there were many of his friends, in total disarray, crying and screaming, expressing their relief for having found him at home, safe and sound. The man shows surprise and perplexity with the explanation for such a commotion.
He had disconnected his mobile telephone for two hours , to read his book peacefully. Meanwhile, his friends sent messages via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, e-mail, etc. and left messages on his voicemail. After two hours of no replies, his friends concluded that he was kidnapped.
They had also called the police and started a campaign on twitter. #Findourfriend #Comebackfriend, etc.
He asked a simple question: “why didn’t you call my home number?” The replica came with laughter. “You didn’t answer for two hours! And who uses a fixed phone line in 2015? ”
This is not a surreal story. I have been in a situation once, where someone sent an e-mail to me on a Thursday after 23hrs, with a request, and a deadline for me to send some information on Sunday.
I haven’t seen this e-mail though, as the person didn’t use my private e-mail address but another one that I rarely check.
On Sunday evening while checking said email address, I found an angry and insulting message, calling me hypocritical, because I hadn’t replied yet.
Notes to self: It is still Sunday. I hardly know the person and there is no history of conflict between us. This is not my problem. This is not worth my while. This person might have a serious problem and is shooting me, or everyone around. Stay away from this.
My reaction was not my usual one of not taking unfair and unjustified insults from anyone. I took the highroad instead. I gave the benefit of the doubt. I replied politely asking for clarification, and after an exchange of a few more messages, which continued with an aggressive tone, I delivered the information requested, after the tone of voice softened on the other side.
I have never received an apology. Instead, I got a little note thanking me for being such a good sport.
Note to self: This is gross.
I have not, at any rate, engaged in confrontation or defensive behavior. Remember my note to self? This person had a problem.
Have I become more mature or zen? Maybe. But in truth, it was my old and tried rationality and optimism which prevailed. It has easily detected an uncontrolled and misguided emotional reaction from someone who maybe was in need of help. Maybe this is someone who is not self-confident enough and doesn’t trust anyone. All in all this didn’t deserve to disrupt my peace of mind.
And do you know why? Because it is up to us, to let or not other people take our power, and our light, away from us. Let them handle their fears and insecurities. Alone. We don’t own this.
So, let’s keep reading our books in peace? Go offline.
René DescartesAcademic, Philosopher, Scientist, Mathematician (1596–1650)
Philosopher and mathematician René Descartes is regarded as the father of modern philosophy for defining a starting point for existence, “I think; therefore I am.”
René Descartes was born on March 31, 1596, in La Haye, France. He was extensively educated, first at a Jesuit college at age 8, then earning a law degree at 22, but an influential teacher set him on a course to apply mathematics and logic to understanding the natural world. This approach incorporated the contemplation of the nature of existence and of knowledge itself, hence his most famous observation, “I think; therefore I am.”
This quote goes to Colleen’s Writer’s Quote Wednesday!