I like to take care of plants, even living in a house without garden in Amsterdam. Amongst others, I have a ‘Japanese Maple or Acer Palmatum’, which until two weeks ago, I had forgotten outside in the roof terrace, enduring below zero temperatures.
All leaves were gone and the branches looked very dry. After I brought it inside the house, when exposed to heating and the occasional sun light (plus a few words of apologies), it took only a few days to flourish again, as if it was spring.
Our actions towards fellow humans are not different. If we are careless and not attentive, we hurt them deeply. If we notice it, and take no action, we cause irreparable damage. If we do whatever we can, while still is time, we can still recover a relationship, a friendship, or even start a new one.
I am no philosopher nor like to give unwanted lessons to anyone. However, something happened yesterday that made me ponder.
A fellow blogger decided to quit because of the actions taken by a so-called Grammar Police, giving unsolicited advice while trashing people’s comments sections and making fun of the others commenters. Discussions about the Oxford Comma seem holier than the Pope. Intolerance, selfish interest, and insensitivity, are the new good behavior. Am I applying the Oxford Comma correctly?
I will leave you with three thoughts:
1. Although I regret to see her leaving, I accept and respect her decision. Each person has a unique sensitivity’s threshold to ‘what, how much and from whom’ to take offence. So, I don’t judge and nobody should judge her decision. We know better what affects us.
2. Most of you know that English is not my mother tongue. I am someone who loves grammar and has always excelled at it, but only in my mother tongue. Writing publicly in English is a challenge I don’t ever underestimate, and I do my best to not make mistakes. But I still do. If anyone corrects me, what has not yet happened, I am delighted to learn new things. I am not against corrections. Additionally, I think we should all strive to publish texts that are not sloppy and incomprehensible. The proofread is here to help.
3. However – now we come back to my Japanese Acer – if the one making the correction decides to trash my post, and those of my commenters, despite of the reasons that brought someone to act like that, I do not need to accept that. People have the choice to follow or not and to read trash (using own definition) or not. We all have the choice to ditch them out of our blogs as well.
I follow bloggers whose blog content interests and touches me. I don’t edit anyone’s comments. Who am I to do so? I am not the Grammar Queen. I look for meaning and not for grammar skills. I choose depth not shallowness. They may have a deep knowledge of English Grammar but their behavior is shallow.
The Grammar Police members might be conscious of their self-righteousness, but unconscious of what they might do to others. Do they see what they are doing? By having a limited view of the blogging experience, they miss the opportunity to learn from other’s ideas, which could have helped expanding their minds, and flourishing as better people.
Daily Post’s Weekly Photo Challenge is Depth. Whether visually or emotionally, this week, editor Ben Huberman asked us to dig (or dive) deep. This photo and words are my answer to it.
Stream of Consciousness prompt from LindaGHill is Scene/Seen. This post is also an answer to it.