Is there a guide to post blog comments? During the courses Blogging 101 and 201, we wondered what’d be the blogosphere etiquette and exchanged ideas on that. We shared what we individually accepted as the right behaviors and moved on.
I for one, felt at ease to leave comments on the blogs I follow, and learned to appreciate that I derived more pleasure from the commentary left on my blog than the post I have written. Comments brought life to my words, and the interactions with readers created a community of minds, as well as it built strong bonds with like-minded people.
Some days ago, this subject was brought to my attention by two bloggers, who inspired me to write this post. I would like to share their posts with you, as they bring new perspectives to commentary, which is worth checking out.
My fellow blogger Deborah Drucker wrote the post The Dust Has Settled; it starts like that:
“I had no idea when I made a comment to one of my fellow blogger friends that it would stir up such a hornet’s nest of controversy. It turns out many people have an opinion on the subject I had raised. It had to do with making connections with other bloggers when you are a new blogger. And should the more established bloggers reciprocate with their commenters and go and visit the commenter’s blog? and comment? Then this lead to another comment from me about the Big bloggers and how they attract new bloggers to their sites.”
Some days later, another fellow blogger, The Occidental Reader, who blogs at Something To Say left a comment on one of my posts that went like that:
“I censor myself much too much…I don’t always allow myself to convey a feeling or thought in the moment. It makes it into words on the screen, but then the analyzing begins. I ask myself, how will these words be perceived, did I perceive what I just read the way the writer wanted me to perceive it, question after question until the words become covered in blue, then turn into blank space…There are times for more thoughtful comments or replies, but so many opportunities for connecting are missed when I indulge my senseless censoring.!”
Their thoughts made me ponder and here is my conclusion:
I write a post or a comment without knowing where I will end up with my thoughts and emotions. The inner drive is to express the ideas evoked from what I read. The ideas come out fast; I borrow meaning from words – connected as verbs, adjectives, substantives. To get them out from my thought processes to the world in the format of phrases, is not a precise process though.
Even if I may not ever know if the words used translated well the truth of the first thoughts, how could I expect the reader to perceive what I did and make comments with perfection?
The same goes the other way around. How could a reader expect the blogger to have read his or her thoughts and write precisely what he/she wanted to read?
I think that we will never know before commenting, how that will come across and what people will make out of our words. Individual perceptions are complex and I wouldn’t attempt to read it precisely from anyone; I already struggle at times, making sense of my own…
As bloggers, either when writing a post or commentary, we need to be prepared to hear opposite views and command the same respect to them, as we would for those who agree with us. Conversely, we shouldn’t ever be afraid of commenting for fear of judgment. If our comments stir controversy and are not well received, there is always the possibility to at least learn from the experience.
Thanks, Deborah and Occidental Reader, it was worthy to once again reflect about that.
There are at least two angles, two sides, reflecting what we see as the truth.
What do you think about this?