Being Perfectly Imperfect

Some weeks ago while reading ‘The Fallen Saints post by Chic Prune‘ I left a comment there:

Vulnerability is, in fact, a place of strength, as people meet and greet there without fear. Not recognizing that inner strength, makes us worship saints. There isn’t any…

Since yesterday, I met again with the thought of vulnerability, at least in three occasions.

Someone going through a relationship shakeup; another one feeling uncomfortable with a current job and searching for a new path; and my concerns on how and where blogging is taking me.

The beautiful thing about these encounters of minds, in three unrelated conversations with different people – who don’t know each other, except me – is that I was the only constant factor. However, If we had been in the same room having all these conversations, we would have still understood each other.

Many people talk about wearing masks, playing roles, and suppressing their truths, as if that would be a stronger and easier way out of their problems. I think it is not. Others though, look at the bull’s-eyes and say it: I am unhappy, I am in doubt, I am depressed, I am afraid, I am not self-confident, I am wrong. It takes much more courage and strength to be authentic and vulnerable. To be themselves.

We are perfectly imperfect and that is good.

One is going through counseling and will find out if the way is in again or out with a good closure.

The other is searching for what will bring passion back to a career and thrive again.

I for one, will continue writing shitty first drafts,  doing the best I can, and accepting that this is my best shot.

“Act as if you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. Laugh at yourself for thinking like that.” 

Photo credit to SomniVision Art . Check his beautiful art and blog. Thanks J. Liswed for letting me use your art. 

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Sharing my views and experiences with words and photos - taken with diverse angles - influenced by the multicultural countries I have lived and worked. I studied Psychology and have an MBA. After working for corporates, I became an entrepreneur and consultant. Cycling, hiking, windsurfing, cooking, reading, yoga, writing and photographing, are no longer just hobbies listed in a resume.

28 thoughts on “Being Perfectly Imperfect

  1. The act of blogging has made me feel more vulnerable than anything I’ve done in a long time. Strangely, I feel more vulnerable when I come face-to-face with people in my “real” life than I do with other bloggers. Often, I feel that my posts expose me as the biggest fool on the planet (and, sometimes, I am). It is hard to be “authentic,” but, as you point out, it is more important to be honest than to be perfect.

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    1. Hi, Sandi. And here you are, commenting about your experience without fear.Thanks for that. I ask myself where the most vulnerable place is – blogging my thoughts or talking to friends; I also feel like a fool sometimes, also because expressing thoughts and emotions on a second language, makes it tougher to be understood. A language has a life in itself, as it speaks loudly of a culture, and the ways people think and value things. When you don’t master these aspects, but just learned to speak and write it, you won’t know how to get your message across, as much as a native speaker would. So, these are my fool-moments of vulnerability; but I do it anyways, after all, English is the new esperanto.

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    1. Sometimes, I wish life had a dashboard with a menu as complete as the one we use at WP, and also lots of happy engineers to help us fixing on the spot, the #404 errors we go through daily. Thanks for sharing; good to know am not alone on this one. 😉

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  2. I agree, it does take more courage to be ourselves online. I think it has to do with the fact that if we say something online it will ALWAYS be there. There is never going to be any ‘forgetting’ or getting away from whatever it is we said. There is also so much more chance of being taken out of context and abused because of it.
    I blog too and find myself self editing a lot more there than I do even on things like facebook.

    PS- I tried to also ‘like’ your post, but for some reason it’s not letting me.

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    1. Hi, thanks for taking the time to comment thoughtfully. Yes, what is written is difficult to change and can lead to all sorts of misinterpretation. Thinking twice before speaking is as good as drafting many times, before hitting ‘publish’. However, we can always update the written word – provided someone didn’t make a copy of it – whereas some words when voiced harshly, can sometimes bleed forever in people’s hearts.
      PS. It’s ok to not hit ‘like’; you gave me much more with your comment. Thanks again.

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  3. We are perfectly imperfect and that is good.

    I like that!

    I think we need to remember when we say anything online that it will NEVER be ‘forgotten’. With all the spying by the NSA, not to mention the ridiculous lengths companies you work for go now a days, it’s something we might need to keep in mind when we hit the ‘post’ button. Censorship SUCKS! It doesn’t matter whether it’s self- censorship or coming from someone else. 😦

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    1. Good point; as long as we’re not involved with underground politics, espionage, religion…we should be ok. 😉 As to workplace censorship…it’s a whole new code of behaviors. Having spent most of my career in corporates, I’d say that yes, people are naively making themselves much more vulnerable, only on matters that should be private, but in general, people have much more control of the level of exposure they want to have. They can use the exposure to their benefit, as their talents can be discovered much easier now than in the old ways, when people depended entirely on being ‘found’ by some narrow minded headhunters, who often had no interest, and no patience to go beyond the lists of people they already knew.
      Censorship is a bad thing though.

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  4. I feel the vulnerability when putting myself out there with one of my original fiction pieces. It is good to get feedback that is supportive of one’s efforts especially when first starting out. I really appreciate when people take the time to comment. I recently finished reading Anne Lamott’s book about writing,” Bird by Bird.” To paraphrase her she said it is important to not be too critical of new writers, to be gentle in your criticism. And I think it is important to find something you liked about their work.

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    1. Thoughtful and very valid point, Deborah. Support helps newbies like me get the foot on the ground and enough confidence to stand tall. I am grateful to you for being a great support to my blog in the last weeks and that meant a lot to me. Thank you!

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  5. This is beautiful – thank you for sharing. When it comes to blogging, I struggled mightily with how I should go about doing it. I felt like each message had to be perfectly crafted and include a compelling call to action. Then I stopped that crazy train in its tracks…!

    Now, I actually ‘speed blog’. I don’t take more than 15-20 minutes to write a post each day so that I don’t have time to second guess myself. I write what moves me or what I happen to be obsessing on (for me this week its all about food apparently!) and hope that my readers enjoy my ramblings. If not, its ok. Writing for me is very therapeutic and it is definitely an exercise in being my most authentic self ❤

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    1. Thank you so much, Meredith. Also for sharing your experience. It is definitely good and inspiring advise. I have been busy with Blogging101 followed by Blogging201. The pressure was high to do all daily tasks and still write (which is the whole purpose of having the blog) with quality, while keeping the routine of work and life in general. It was worth it, though. I just signed up for Photography101 as well; so it seems that I am self-confessed blog addict. 😉

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  6. Hey there, I found you via the NaBloPoMo blogroll.

    Recently I tried a new thing with blogging, a weekly link up thing, and thus far not very many people have participated. When I started it, I planned to do it for a year, and I sent emails to a lot of bloggers that I read hoping they would join in. I was a little surprised at how few people replied to me, but I guess everyone is busy. I’m sticking with the link up regardless of how many people take part, because I am determined that way. I’m hopeful maybe if I keep at it, more people will join in, but if not so be it. 🙂

    As part of NaBloPoMo I try to comment on as many participating blogs as I can, and I add participating blogs to my feed reader.

    So I’m just dropping by to let you know I’ve added your blog to my feedreader, I’m reading you loud and clear, I have a link up going at my place so my readers can find participating blogs which you are more than welcome to add your blog link to.

    Looking forward to seeing your posts, and you’ll likely see me drop by again during November.

    Happy NaBloPoMo to you!
    Snoskred
    http://www.snoskred.org

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    1. Hi, thanks for visiting.
      I guess you are doing the right thing for yourself by not giving up, even if people don’t answer. I will try to comment as much as I can too.
      Happy NaBloPoMo to you too!

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  7. I had this short glimmer in my blog folder for expanding on sometime down the road, but after reading your post and the comments that followed, I feel like this is where it belongs…

    “I censor myself much too much…I don’t always allow myself to convey a feeling or thought in the moment. It makes it into words on the screen, but then the analyzing begins. I ask myself, how will these words be perceived, did I perceive what I just read the way the writer wanted me to perceive it, question after question until the words become covered in blue, then turn into blank space…There are times for more thoughtful comments or replies, but so many opportunities for connecting are missed when I indulge my senseless censoring.”

    Even now I’m asking myself if I should hit POST COMMENT. I’m definitely a member of the ‘Do I Sound Like A Fool’ club!

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    1. I’m happy you posted it regardless of all the self-censoring; it’s worth reading it and we all can relate to it. Thank you!
      Please do always hit post, and let it go. Think of them as components of a story that we’re composing together. Someone starts with a post and comments expand, enlight, enrich it with new angles and perspectives. There isn’t a right or wrong comment, and you’ll never be a fool to join the comment’s club.
      You may continue your membership of the ‘Do I Sound Like A Fool’ club, but feel always welcome here; you’re already a for-life member of this blog, even if you don’t comment.

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