I went shopping for ideas at today’s daily prompt and found this one:
Litmus, Litmus on the Wall
If you had to come up with one question, the answer to which would determine whether or not you could be friends with a person you’ve just met, what would it be? What would the right answer be?
What attracted me more, though, was to find out what Litmus is, at the Oxford dictionary…
Ok, got it.
Could you read my blog?
Yes, well, actually not… I browsed through that very long, endless post.
Had I known you wanted me to do so… I’d’ better not stayed here drinking coffee with you.
It is over…no friendship is possible here!
Kidding you…this is very ‘good – from the gut – material’ for friendship building.
This was an honest ‘no’ – giving also a subtle, careful hint on the text length – and getting to closure by demonstrating a considerate attitude.
We don’t get many opportunities to hear what people really think about us, as they may fear to hurt us, and in the process, hurting the relationship. We don’t make it very easy for people either if we have the tendency to take criticism personally.
Being a friend is much more than loving and praising achievements. Having the courage to tell us to our face that we are wrong, and may end up falling from the cliff (before we get to the edge), is what friends are for. Sometimes our perceived enemies are our best friends, and the ones who helped us the most, when pointing out the things we don’t want to hear, or are not aware of on ourselves.
Going through the 30-day’s Blogging101 course, which started last week, has been an incredible experience, just for what I said above. I heard that there are over 1000 people from all over the world participating in the course; we never met, we are not friends, and have only one common factor uniting us – our interest to learn how to make our blogs better by performing daily tasks well orchestrated by Michelle Weber.
What is happening with this group, though, is made of the same fabric that grows friendships. Giving time, and making an effort, in the good or the worse moments. That costs a lot, and not many people go out of their way to help strangers. Kindness, consideration, attention, support, and also constructive criticism are hard currencies. This group has given just that to each other, for free. Spreading the love…just as Michelle tells us everyday!
So, next time someone asks you to make a ‘Litmus test’ to indicate if you can be friends with another, think about that: goodness is not always anticipated nor visible, but is present in every person. Perhaps, all we need is to give it first, starting a chain of reciprocal reactions. You may make many friends on the way…
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